Thursday, September 3, 2009

The Job Game

My husband's job is driving us crazy.

I imagine that at some point or another most people hate their jobs. But right now, things are really starting to come to a boil. His hours are crazy and his stress level even during regular business hours is awful. His boss routinely asks for meetings at the end of the day and keeps him well after business hours. He is salaried, so he doesn't get paid anything extra for extra time, either. He's working lots of extra hours, including work in off-hours from home, and 1-2 nights a week where he stays late, plus he mostly doesn't take a lunch break. He's done this a lot over the years, but it usually ebbs and flows - it's not constant practice, it's during a time where there are big project deadlines, etc. This has been going on for months with no end in sight.

He's stressed - there are so many projects that he is working on, both of his bosses keep piling on more and more, they have no concept of an acceptable workload or reasonable deadlines.

I am stressed because he is stressed. When he comes home, I often reflect his mood, so when he is in a dour mood, one comes over me. I try and stop that, but the longer he is grumpy, the grumpier I get, too.

And on days when I'm already stressed? Him coming home later and later just makes me crazy. The Fuss tends to start to freak out around 5:30. His usual coming home time is about 6, but it's been closer to 7 several nights this week. More than an hour of her wailing and whining really gets to me.

He's been looking for another job off and on for months, but he hasn't gotten any calls. There just aren't a lot of openings right now - in any field, I guess. We know it's a bad time to be job searching - everyone is scaling back, lots of companies are losing employees to attrician if not actually laying people off. So despite his degree and his pretty decent number of years of experience, we're getting nothing.

We're praying about it, but it's so hard to wait on the Lord. We're even willing to take a pay cut, but there are limits to that, too.

It's really hard to wait and have no control about it.


  1. Wow. I could have written this post. That is exactly how things have been going here. My hubby works for peanuts and it's just getting old. The long hours. No lunch breaks. Going in early. Coming home late, tired, grumpy & stressed. My mood tends to reflect his as well, so then we are all stressed. Will pray for you guys. Pray for us to please. At some point in this life I'd like to have money and a house to call our own.

  2. Wow, sorry to hear you are going through this tough time. Keep staying positive. Somehow, someway, things always have a way of working out.

    BTW, just found your blog from Mommy Words and I am your most recent follower. :)